My Book Shelf: In The Meantime by Iyanla Vanzant

I checked out this book like three months ago & kept renewing it because I haven't finished it yet. This time I HAVE to finish it. I'm fresh out of my renewals lol. Anyways, I'm on Chapter 2 (There's 12 chapters). I've been reading another book that I'll share in another post.


This book is about "Finding yourself & the love you want". I checked out this book around the time of my break-up. Being in the meantime is whatever situation you're in now (That's what I took from it). I consider it my down time/me time as I made a post about this in the past. It talks about relationships, being in love, the lessons of relationships etc.


I will not be doing a book review on this or any other books I share. I wanted to share /keep track of the different books I have read/reading/want to read (in the tab on top). Please share & leave a comment below with some interesting books you have read/reading.


Have any of read this book?

College Graduate...Unemployed...Taking A New Turn!

So this recession is a KILLER. No seriously! People have committed suicide...& killed their family because life took an unexpected turn (I read this sometime last year)...Well God bless them, I'm nowhere near that situation. But I know the feeling of not financially being where you want to be, or think you should be etc.


I've worked hard & LONG for my degree only to wait...wait..& wait for a job opening. Oh & apply, but don't get a call back...oh & if you get that call back, get an interview but don't get the job ::face in palm:: I can't take it!!!!


Okay, well anyways...I'm thinking about taking up a new hobby...and maybe interning (sad face) somewhere just to add things to my resume. I mean why not? If any time is better why not now? The big move out of state doesn't look like it'll happen anytime soon, nor that dream job. So, I have to do what I gotta do.


But either way I'm restricted. The area I live in isn't equipped for individuals like me. Ambitious, creative, young, motivated individuals. There aren't many opportunities here. I would have to drive 30mins (the least) to get my foot in a door out of 15...smh. God is definitely by my side through this long haul. I graduated in Dec 2010 & I have yet to get anywhere. So lame.


I want to do something creative. Maybe become a mini-entrepreneur or teach a class of some sort (workshop). I haven't gotten far as to WHAT I want this to be. So, I'm going back to the drawing board & see where that leads me. I def. have a side hustle that's legal...lol, but it's not enough to feel comfortable.


Anywho...any other suggestions, ideas out there?

I'm Comfortable Now...

If you can't tell by my past blog posts, I went through a rough breakup. The type of breakup where you thought your FIRST was your only...last name...one day we're going to get married and have pretty babies...I love you so much your family is now my family TYPE love. That all came to an end in Jan...but mentally way before then.


This post isn't to back track on that journey...I'm over it & I'm in a new place.


A place where I'm comfortable where I am at, where I'm headed. So comfortable that I wish him the best, I want him to be happy even if it's not with me. We just weren't meant to be. I mean, what can I say? If you want to know what I mean by ALL of this, please take the time & check out the few past posts I've talked about regarding all of this. Like... Old Post: The breakup...It's over now, Old Post: Falling In Love Again, They do tell a small piece of my life/relationship.


Anyways, I'm in a better place now. I'm very surprised & happy about this. I use to ask my sister (close girlfriend of mine) "When will I get over him?"...Her: "I know how you feel honey, it's hard & it will take time. There's no real answer to that"...she was right about that. She's still dealing with a breakup she had a year ago. I mean...how do you get over someone you loved so dearly & saw a future with so easily? It's just not easy. But what I can say now is that I'm at peace with it. No, I'm not totally OVER him. But I think, the biggest part is over with.


I owe all the praise & thanks to God, Because He only knows how difficult & impatient I am.

My Favorite Blogger Is No Longer On My Radar...

So...I'm not going to mention who the individual is because I don't know who know's the person & I'm not trying to make this more than what it needs to be. This is my personal blog, I tend to vent & that's what I'm about to do.


What made this person my favorite blogger? The things that they did for their community (they blogged & tweeted about these things), goals, the type of topics they blogged about.


I started to notice that this particular blogger never checked out others blogs (I don't ever see comments from them) & I've checked out quit a few. This person doesn't get millions of comments on their blog, so it's not like they couldn't take the time out to comment back on others blog. I'm always too nice. I usually comment back on someones blog when they leave a genuine comment & not just to drop off their URL. That mess is so annoying to me. 


I do follow this person on Twitter. This is how I found out about their blog. I noticed they tweet negative things about bloggers that aren't as (Hmmm what's the word) "popular" as her blog. I can't stand this as well. I really do believe bloggers that have some clout aren't genuine.. If there's one out there point them out for me. People let numbers, stats get the best of them. Instead of talking down help one another out. But I don't see that much.


I wanted so bad to say "Honey, your blog is nice but it's not all of that for you be acting the way you do". It's just like the cons outweighed the pros about this individual. I shouldn't feel this way about someone I don't even know. I'm not saying I hate this person, but I honestly am taking the route of not following anything this person does.


Another thing that bothered me...don't post my response that I left on your blog on your twitter page without quoting me. Did you think I wasn't going to see that? The whole blog post/topic of what I commented on seemed controversial in the first place. And my opinion is MY opinion. I didn't say anything negative. And obviously she felt like that...


Anyways...some of these bloggers need to get off of their HIGH horse. And call it what you want, but I can't respect those that think their better than others..I quickly remove myself from it. There's not enough "like" in this world about a persons blog that's going to keep me around to comment/follow when there's barely any dialogue or support in the blogging community. SO because you have 700 followers that speaks for itself?


I don't think so! Ugh ::flips hair:: I'm so through...

Update [6] 2011 Hair Challenge- Length Check & Time To Get Straight

So, back in June (the 18th to be exact) I did a length check, straightened my hair & trimmed it (Important if you want to retain your length). I don't use heat on my hair on a regular basis (or any at all). I think the last time that I actually did was in Jan/Feb (not sure). I'm trying to keep track/document my journey the best that I can. But sometimes I get lazy. Writing down every little thing is boring.


Anyways, I've decided that I'll do a length check every two months (3-2 times during my 6 month hair challenge). I guess this makes month #2 on this challenge. I was more into the whole process in the beginning, now it just seems like a lot of work. Oh how fast my excitement has died.


Below are the tools/items that I used at the time to prepare this length check:

I Co-washed my hair (Washed my hair with conditioner).
Applied my Proclaim Natural 7

Tools- Wide tooth comb (Very important), Denman Brush (from Sally's Beauty store), & a small tooth comb (I didn't use this much).

Applied the Olive Oil heat protection serum by Organic Root Stimulator.

Blow dried it on Low-Cool. Trying to stay away from as much heat as I can.


Then flat ironed my hair [Picture not shown]


My hair lasted a week. It may have lasted longer if I wasn't so anxious to wash out that HORRIBLE heat protector on myhair. I swear I hate that product. I'm really going to look into purchasing a new one.
Also...I'm still undecided if I'm going to post pictures of this particular hair journey...


Anywho..if you're natural & have kinky, curly, wavy hair how do you do your length checks? How often?


Talk to you all soon...

Top 10 Award

Thank you for tagging me Sauniya! She's one of my readers. I enjoy reading blog posts from her as well. You can check out her blog ! I Am Not Perfect..!.!

So the award comes with these rules:

1. Thank the person who tagged you and link their blog.

2. Put the Top 10 award logo on your blog.

3. List your top 10 cosmetics.

4. Choose 10 bloggers to tag, link their blogs and let them know.

My top 10 cosmetics 

1. E.LF primer
2. NYX Jumbo Pencil's
3. Maybelline's Great Lash mascara
4. Cargo's One Base
5. N.Y.C Color Wheel Mosaic Face Powder
6. Maybelline's Expert Wear Eyeshadow (Bronze Glitz)
7. MAC Lipglass
8. E.LF. Cream Eyeliner (Brown)
9. Virtual Illusion Makeup Primer
10. Pop Eye Topper (Beaming Blink) from Ulta

 (I'm really not the best with cosmetics, sorry that's all I could come up with ..)

Bloggers I am tagging (click on the names)

**FYI Majority of those that follow me here, follow my beauty blog, & I've tagged you already over there...so this list will be short. 

Me My Hair & I

My So Called Life

Update [5] 2011 Hair Challenge- June Hair Regimen

My June hair routine was very simple. Months ago when I was transitioning, I spent a lot of time on my hair, now I can admit I've gotten lazy. I haven't been moisturizing my hair like I promised myself and like I use to. 


With my hair & goals, it's a must that I spritz, or use one of my water/oils concoctions to moisturize my hair. One natural hair Youtuber by the name of UTubeHairCare that I'm subscribed to mentioned in her video how important it is that we do this. Especially if you're trying to retain length & healthy hair. So, I thanked her for that friendly reminder in her video.
Regime-
-Co-wash once or twice a week
-Shampoo my hair twice a month instead of once a month
-Mint spritz my hair just about every day.
-Use EVOO or my Proclaim Natural 7 Oils more often
-Braid hair in 8 braids. Use: a mixture of Patene Pro V's conditioner for women of color relax/natural, oils, & water.
-I'm back to taking my One a day vitamins. Something very important that US women need to take.


Anywho, check out UTubeHairCare's video below. Very informative...

Let me know what you think...

Update [4] 2011 Hair Challenge- Products I'm Using

What products are you currently using?
**=Products I use often

Shea Moisture-Organic Raw Shea [Review Coming Soon) Butter Moisture Retention Shampoo [Review Coming Soon]

**ECO Styler Gel-Olive Oil
Cantu-Shea Butter (Leave in conditioner) [Review Coming Soon]

Procalim Natural 7 oils

**EVOO

**My mint spritz..you can check that out HERE

**Aussie-Hair Insurance (Leave in conditioner)

Herbal Essence (Shampoo)

**Hello Hydration ...& conditioners

**VO5 Milk Moisture-passion fruit

...last & most important Water!

What's Been Up? Where Have You Been?

Hey lovely people...
So I've been MIA over this way. Reason being is A) I've been lazy B) I've just been posting blog posts on my other blogs & not commenting back & checking blog posts like I normally do. Although this is common in the blogging world..I feel like I've missed out on a lot. I've been awarded a few awards, recognized & included in Follow Fridays. You guys are the best seriously. Please forgive my tardiness.


All in all..I'm here..alive, doing better and blessed. I'll have to update over this way today. Hair related stuff, my life, & product reviews. Also. I'm thinking about doing a giveaway on something small. Even though I'm still unemployed I find ways to give back here & offline...


Okay, chat with you all soon. Thank you for sticking around & commenting :)