Jesus said that He was sent by God to proclaim liberty. As believers, that is what we are meant to do also, to free people to fulfill God's will for their lives, not to bring them under our control.
I have discovered that trying to make people do what I want them to do closes the door for God to speak to their hearts. We need to release the people in our lives to be all they can be for God's glory, not our own.
Set people free & they will love you for it. Don't be manipulative. Instead, learn to let God be in control of their lives.
A person who has great love is one who is able to release people & things. Today, don't be a person who controls, but one who freely gives the liberating love that comes from God.
I highly suggest you read The Mastery of Love. It's a great book & great perspective on love & how we should look at it. The words Joyce speaks here, reminds me of that book. Check it out!